Well, i'd like to first comment on how everyone in my group thought i would be the best liar....what was that all about? I admit, i like to talk, i like to get everyone involved, i like being outgoing, laugh and im quite animated when i tell stories. Apparently people's perceptions of a liar are distorted, or maybe i do posses traits and qualities that a good liar would have, such as a salesman or a lawyer.
Mind bugs are tricky and although they are very common, finally becoming aware of them I've noticed how common and often deceiving they are. Its hard to look past a first impression or initial perception of someone or something because many times that's the only one you get. I try to never "judge a book by its cover" and try to look past initial perceptions. Although i can read people and situations well, when there is time to look further i definitely take advantage of that.
Just recently i have been a victim of misperceptions which harmed my professional career. Because of my out going and very social personality, a client decided that i would not be a good candidate to manage a job in Japan citing my demeaner as being a characteristic that would not mesh well with the Japanese culture. I took this as a slap in the face, i have a lot of experience with the japanese culture from playing on a japanese baseball team and housing two young japanese players. I also pride myself openness and respect to all cultures, and as being able to adapt to fit situations out of my comfort zone. This situations still upsets me, for someone to take an opportunity to experience an amazing and culture filled country away from me that i may not ever be able to have again in my life because of a misperception they have of me, really tears me up. Unfortunately i will not forget about this, and it affects the way i look at the client. Of course i put on my smile and still show them the excellent customer service they have always received from me, but deep down on the inside... i want them to know that they have lost a lot of respect from me, and they are lucky its not social acceptable or legal to slap people in public.
Usually a misperception when harmless doesn't affect me, because i know that if that person were to spend some time with me their perceptions would change dramatically. but, if the misperceptions affect me negatively, there is no room for that person in my life, i wont give them the time a day. I have friends and family that love me for who i am, and if others don't want to be a part of that, I'm not gonna lose any sleep over it. Unfortunately with the example above, i have to see this person on a regular basis, so it reminds me about the mistreatment and misperception.
After the measurements were done on the two tables, i was convinced that they were the same...
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